diff --git a/src/CMakeLists.txt b/src/CMakeLists.txt
index 534427b..5bf8dc3 100644
--- a/src/CMakeLists.txt
+++ b/src/CMakeLists.txt
@@ -35,7 +35,9 @@ add_library(solanaceae_rpbot
 	./solanaceae/rpbot/message_prompt_builder.cpp
 
 	./solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot.hpp
+	./solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot_states.hpp
 	./solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot.cpp
+	./solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot_commands.cpp
 )
 
 target_include_directories(solanaceae_rpbot PUBLIC .)
diff --git a/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot.cpp b/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot.cpp
index ed9e47d..c71d1c3 100644
--- a/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot.cpp
+++ b/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot.cpp
@@ -1,7 +1,8 @@
 #include "./rpbot.hpp"
 
 #include "./message_prompt_builder.hpp"
-#include "solanaceae/contact/contact_model3.hpp"
+
+#include "./rpbot_states.hpp"
 
 #include <solanaceae/contact/components.hpp>
 #include <solanaceae/message3/components.hpp>
@@ -10,46 +11,10 @@
 #include <limits>
 #include <string_view>
 #include <vector>
-#include <atomic>
 #include <future>
 #include <chrono>
 #include <cstdint>
 
-// sleeps until onMsg or onTimer
-struct StateIdle {
-	static constexpr const char* name {"StateIdle"};
-	float timeout {0.f};
-};
-
-// determines if self should generate a message
-struct StateNext {
-	static constexpr const char* name {"StateNext"};
-
-	std::string prompt;
-	std::vector<std::string> possible_names;
-	std::vector<Contact3> possible_contacts;
-
-	std::future<int64_t> future;
-};
-
-// generate message
-struct StateGenerateMsg {
-	static constexpr const char* name {"StateGenerateMsg"};
-
-	std::string prompt;
-
-	// returns new line (single message)
-	std::future<std::string> future;
-};
-
-// look if it took too long/too many new messages came in
-// while also optionally sleeping to make message appear not too fast
-// HACK: skip, just send for now
-struct StateTimingCheck {
-	static constexpr const char* name {"StateTimingCheck"};
-	int tmp;
-};
-
 template<>
 void RPBot::stateTransition(const Contact3 c, const StateIdle& from, StateNext& to) {
 	// collect promp
@@ -71,23 +36,25 @@ void RPBot::stateTransition(const Contact3 c, const StateIdle& from, StateNext&
 
 	std::cout << "prompt for next: '" << to.prompt << "'\n";
 
-	{ // get set of possible usernames
+	int64_t self {-1};
+	{ // get set of possible usernames (even if forced, just to make sure)
 		// copy mpb.names (contains string views, needs copies)
 		for (const auto& [name_c, name] : mpb.names) {
-			if (_cr.all_of<Contact::Components::ConnectionState>(name_c)) {
+			if (_cr.all_of<Contact::Components::TagSelfStrong>(name_c)) {
+				self = to.possible_contacts.size();
+				to.possible_names.push_back(std::string{name});
+				to.possible_contacts.push_back(name_c);
+			} else if (_cr.all_of<Contact::Components::ConnectionState>(name_c)) {
 				if (_cr.get<Contact::Components::ConnectionState>(name_c).state != Contact::Components::ConnectionState::disconnected) {
 					// online
 					to.possible_names.push_back(std::string{name});
 					to.possible_contacts.push_back(name_c);
 				}
-			} else if (_cr.all_of<Contact::Components::TagSelfStrong>(name_c)) {
-				to.possible_names.push_back(std::string{name});
-				to.possible_contacts.push_back(name_c);
 			}
 		}
 	}
 
-	{ // launch async
+	if (!from.force) { // launch async
 		// copy names for string view param (lol)
 		std::vector<std::string_view> pnames;
 		for (const auto& n : to.possible_names) {
@@ -97,6 +64,11 @@ void RPBot::stateTransition(const Contact3 c, const StateIdle& from, StateNext&
 		to.future = std::async(std::launch::async, [pnames, &to, this]() -> int64_t {
 			return _completion.completeSelect(to.prompt, pnames);
 		});
+	} else {
+		std::cout << "next forced with self " << self << "\n";
+		// forced, we predict ourselfs
+		// TODO: set without future?
+		to.future = std::async(std::launch::async, [self]() -> int64_t { return self; });
 	}
 }
 
@@ -135,13 +107,25 @@ RPBot::RPBot(
 ) : _completion(completion), _conf(conf), _cr(cr), _rmm(rmm), _mcd(mcd) {
 	//system_prompt = R"sys(Transcript of a group chat, where Bob talks to online strangers.
 //)sys";
-	system_prompt = "Transcript of a group chat, where ";
+	// TODO: name is chat specific, leave system prompt a template
+	std::string self_name {"Bob"};
 	if (_conf.has_string("tox", "name")) {
-		system_prompt += _conf.get_string("tox", "name").value();
-	} else {
-		system_prompt += std::string{"Bob"};
+		self_name = _conf.get_string("tox", "name").value();
 	}
-	system_prompt += std::string{" talks to online strangers.\n"};
+
+#if 1
+	system_prompt = "Transcript of a group chat, where ";
+	system_prompt += self_name;
+	system_prompt += " talks to online strangers. ";
+	system_prompt += self_name;
+	system_prompt += " is creative and curious. ";
+	system_prompt += self_name;
+	system_prompt += " is precise in its writing, but with occasional typos.";
+#else
+#include "./test_system_prompt1.inl"
+#endif
+
+	system_prompt += "\n"; // last entry
 
 	registerCommands();
 }
@@ -157,96 +141,19 @@ float RPBot::tick(float time_delta) {
 	return min_tick_interval;
 }
 
-void RPBot::registerCommands(void) {
-	if (_mcd == nullptr) {
-		return;
-	}
-
-	_mcd->registerCommand(
-		"RPBot", "rpbot",
-		"start",
-		[this](std::string_view params, Message3Handle m) -> bool {
-			const auto contact_from = m.get<Message::Components::ContactFrom>().c;
-			const auto contact_to = m.get<Message::Components::ContactTo>().c;
-
-			if (params.empty()) {
-				// contact_to should be the contact this is for
-				if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(contact_to)) {
-					_rmm.sendText(
-						contact_from,
-						"error: already running"
-					);
-					return true;
-				}
-				if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(contact_from)) {
-					_rmm.sendText(
-						contact_from,
-						"error: already running"
-					);
-					return true;
-				}
-
-				if (_cr.all_of<Contact::Components::ParentOf>(contact_to)) {
-					// group
-					auto& new_state = _cr.emplace<StateIdle>(contact_to);
-					new_state.timeout = 10.f;
-				} else {
-					// pm
-					auto& new_state = _cr.emplace<StateIdle>(contact_from);
-					new_state.timeout = 10.f;
-				}
-
-				_rmm.sendText(
-					contact_from,
-					"RPBot started"
-				);
-				return true;
-			} else {
-				// id in params
-				if (params.size() % 2 != 0) {
-					_rmm.sendText(
-						contact_from,
-						"malformed hex id"
-					);
-					return true;
-				}
-
-				auto id_bin = hex2bin(params);
-
-				auto view = _cr.view<Contact::Components::ID>();
-				for (auto it = view.begin(), it_end = view.end(); it != it_end; it++) {
-					if (view.get<Contact::Components::ID>(*it).data == id_bin) {
-						auto& new_state = _cr.emplace<StateIdle>(*it);
-						new_state.timeout = 10.f;
-
-						_rmm.sendText(
-							contact_from,
-							"RPBot started"
-						);
-						return true;
-					}
-				}
-
-				_rmm.sendText(
-					contact_from,
-					"no contact found for id"
-				);
-				return true;
-			}
-		},
-		"Start RPBot in current contact.",
-		MessageCommandDispatcher::Perms::ADMIN // TODO: should proably be MODERATOR
-	);
-
-	std::cout << "RPBot: registered commands\n";
-}
-
 float RPBot::doAllIdle(float time_delta) {
 	float min_tick_interval = std::numeric_limits<float>::max();
 	std::vector<Contact3> to_remove_stateidle;
 	auto view = _cr.view<StateIdle>();
 
 	view.each([this, time_delta, &to_remove_stateidle, &min_tick_interval](const Contact3 c, StateIdle& state) {
+		if (_cr.all_of<TagStopRPBot>(c)) {
+			// marked for deletion, in idle (here) we remove them without adding next state
+			to_remove_stateidle.push_back(c);
+			_cr.remove<TagStopRPBot>(c);
+			return;
+		}
+
 		state.timeout -= time_delta;
 		if (state.timeout <= 0.f) {
 			std::cout << "RPBot: idle timed out\n";
diff --git a/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot_commands.cpp b/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot_commands.cpp
new file mode 100644
index 0000000..4ca76b2
--- /dev/null
+++ b/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot_commands.cpp
@@ -0,0 +1,249 @@
+#include "./rpbot.hpp"
+
+#include "./rpbot_states.hpp"
+
+#include <solanaceae/contact/components.hpp>
+#include <solanaceae/message3/components.hpp>
+#include <solanaceae/util/utils.hpp>
+
+void RPBot::registerCommands(void) {
+	if (_mcd == nullptr) {
+		return;
+	}
+
+	_mcd->registerCommand(
+		"RPBot", "rpbot",
+		"start",
+		[this](std::string_view params, Message3Handle m) -> bool {
+			const auto contact_from = m.get<Message::Components::ContactFrom>().c;
+			const auto contact_to = m.get<Message::Components::ContactTo>().c;
+
+			if (params.empty()) {
+				// contact_to should be the contact this is for
+				if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(contact_to)) {
+					_rmm.sendText(
+						contact_from,
+						"error: already running"
+					);
+					return true;
+				}
+				if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(contact_from)) {
+					_rmm.sendText(
+						contact_from,
+						"error: already running"
+					);
+					return true;
+				}
+
+				if (_cr.all_of<Contact::Components::ParentOf>(contact_to)) {
+					// group
+					auto& new_state = _cr.emplace<StateIdle>(contact_to);
+					new_state.timeout = 10.f;
+				} else {
+					// pm
+					auto& new_state = _cr.emplace<StateIdle>(contact_from);
+					new_state.timeout = 10.f;
+				}
+
+				_rmm.sendText(
+					contact_from,
+					"RPBot started"
+				);
+				return true;
+			} else {
+				// id in params
+				if (params.size() % 2 != 0) {
+					_rmm.sendText(
+						contact_from,
+						"malformed hex id"
+					);
+					return true;
+				}
+
+				auto id_bin = hex2bin(params);
+
+				auto view = _cr.view<Contact::Components::ID>();
+				for (auto it = view.begin(), it_end = view.end(); it != it_end; it++) {
+					if (view.get<Contact::Components::ID>(*it).data == id_bin) {
+						auto& new_state = _cr.emplace<StateIdle>(*it);
+						new_state.timeout = 10.f;
+
+						_rmm.sendText(
+							contact_from,
+							"RPBot started"
+						);
+						return true;
+					}
+				}
+
+				_rmm.sendText(
+					contact_from,
+					"no contact found for id"
+				);
+				return true;
+			}
+		},
+		"Start RPBot in current contact.",
+		MessageCommandDispatcher::Perms::ADMIN // TODO: should proably be MODERATOR
+	);
+
+	_mcd->registerCommand(
+		"RPBot", "rpbot",
+		"stop",
+		[this](std::string_view params, Message3Handle m) -> bool {
+			const auto contact_from = m.get<Message::Components::ContactFrom>().c;
+			const auto contact_to = m.get<Message::Components::ContactTo>().c;
+
+			if (params.empty()) {
+				// contact_to should be the contact this is for
+				if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(contact_to)) {
+					_cr.emplace_or_replace<TagStopRPBot>(contact_to);
+					_rmm.sendText(
+						contact_from,
+						"stopped"
+					);
+					return true;
+				}
+				if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(contact_from)) {
+					_cr.emplace_or_replace<TagStopRPBot>(contact_from);
+					_rmm.sendText(
+						contact_from,
+						"stopped"
+					);
+					return true;
+				}
+
+				_rmm.sendText(
+					contact_from,
+					"error: not running"
+				);
+				return true;
+			} else {
+				// id in params
+				if (params.size() % 2 != 0) {
+					_rmm.sendText(
+						contact_from,
+						"malformed hex id"
+					);
+					return true;
+				}
+
+				auto id_bin = hex2bin(params);
+
+				auto view = _cr.view<Contact::Components::ID>();
+				for (auto it = view.begin(), it_end = view.end(); it != it_end; it++) {
+					if (view.get<Contact::Components::ID>(*it).data == id_bin) {
+						if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(*it)) {
+							_cr.emplace_or_replace<TagStopRPBot>(*it);
+							_rmm.sendText(
+								contact_from,
+								"stopped"
+							);
+							return true;
+						} else {
+							_rmm.sendText(
+								contact_from,
+								"error: not running"
+							);
+							return true;
+						}
+					}
+				}
+
+				_rmm.sendText(
+					contact_from,
+					"no contact found for id"
+				);
+				return true;
+			}
+		},
+		"Stop RPBot in current or id contact.",
+		MessageCommandDispatcher::Perms::ADMIN // TODO: should proably be MODERATOR
+	);
+
+	_mcd->registerCommand(
+		"RPBot", "rpbot",
+		"force",
+		[this](std::string_view params, Message3Handle m) -> bool {
+			const auto contact_from = m.get<Message::Components::ContactFrom>().c;
+			const auto contact_to = m.get<Message::Components::ContactTo>().c;
+
+			if (params.empty()) {
+				// contact_to should be the contact this is for
+				if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(contact_to)) {
+					if (_cr.all_of<StateIdle>(contact_to)) {
+						_cr.get<StateIdle>(contact_to).force = true;
+						_cr.get<StateIdle>(contact_to).timeout = 2.f;
+						_rmm.sendText(
+							contact_from,
+							"forced its hand"
+						);
+					}
+					return true;
+				}
+				if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(contact_from)) {
+					if (_cr.all_of<StateIdle>(contact_from)) {
+						_cr.get<StateIdle>(contact_from).force = true;
+						_cr.get<StateIdle>(contact_from).timeout = 2.f;
+						_rmm.sendText(
+							contact_from,
+							"forced its hand"
+						);
+					}
+					return true;
+				}
+
+				_rmm.sendText(
+					contact_from,
+					"error: not running"
+				);
+				return true;
+			} else {
+				// id in params
+				if (params.size() % 2 != 0) {
+					_rmm.sendText(
+						contact_from,
+						"malformed hex id"
+					);
+					return true;
+				}
+
+				auto id_bin = hex2bin(params);
+
+				auto view = _cr.view<Contact::Components::ID>();
+				for (auto it = view.begin(), it_end = view.end(); it != it_end; it++) {
+					if (view.get<Contact::Components::ID>(*it).data == id_bin) {
+						if (_cr.any_of<StateIdle, StateGenerateMsg, StateNext, StateTimingCheck>(*it)) {
+							if (_cr.all_of<StateIdle>(*it)) {
+								_cr.get<StateIdle>(*it).force = true;
+								_cr.get<StateIdle>(*it).timeout = 2.f;
+								_rmm.sendText(
+									contact_from,
+									"forced its hand"
+								);
+							}
+							return true;
+						} else {
+							_rmm.sendText(
+								contact_from,
+								"error: not running"
+							);
+							return true;
+						}
+					}
+				}
+
+				_rmm.sendText(
+					contact_from,
+					"no contact found for id"
+				);
+				return true;
+			}
+		},
+		"force it to generate a message",
+		MessageCommandDispatcher::Perms::ADMIN // TODO: should proably be MODERATOR
+	);
+
+	std::cout << "RPBot: registered commands\n";
+}
+
diff --git a/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot_states.hpp b/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot_states.hpp
new file mode 100644
index 0000000..64dabe6
--- /dev/null
+++ b/src/solanaceae/rpbot/rpbot_states.hpp
@@ -0,0 +1,47 @@
+#pragma once
+
+#include "./rpbot.hpp"
+
+#include <string>
+#include <vector>
+#include <future>
+#include <cstdint>
+
+struct TagStopRPBot {};
+
+// sleeps until onMsg or onTimer
+struct StateIdle {
+	static constexpr const char* name {"StateIdle"};
+	float timeout {0.f};
+	bool force {false};
+};
+
+// determines if self should generate a message
+struct StateNext {
+	static constexpr const char* name {"StateNext"};
+
+	std::string prompt;
+	std::vector<std::string> possible_names;
+	std::vector<Contact3> possible_contacts;
+
+	std::future<int64_t> future;
+};
+
+// generate message
+struct StateGenerateMsg {
+	static constexpr const char* name {"StateGenerateMsg"};
+
+	std::string prompt;
+
+	// returns new line (single message)
+	std::future<std::string> future;
+};
+
+// look if it took too long/too many new messages came in
+// while also optionally sleeping to make message appear not too fast
+// HACK: skip, just send for now
+struct StateTimingCheck {
+	static constexpr const char* name {"StateTimingCheck"};
+	int tmp;
+};
+